Do You Pray For Your Family (Part 2)

As if yesterday’s list of Biblical virtue prayers and scripture was not enough…

I have a whole lot more!

There are now a total of 58 virtues listed on the Biblical virtue prayers page here.

This blog post is Part 2 of this series.

For the Part 1 blog post click here.


Some tips for reading this list:

***This is a good guideline for praying for your children but also for praying for your spouses and/or yourself. So you can easily substitute the words “my children” with: “I,”  “Spouse’s Name,” etc.

***Claim and believe that God is working each one of these Biblical virtues into your children’s lives (or your spouse’s life or your own life). I recommend praying 1-2 virtues per day (throughout the day). Work your way down the list. When you have finished the list; start back at the beginning!

***The virtues listed here are in alphabetical order.

***The Biblical virtue is in blue, the Prayer is in black, and the Scripture is in red.


ALERTNESS– Father God, please help my children to learn how to watch and pray so that they will be alert and not fall into temptation.

“Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the body is weak.” Mark 14:38


ATTENTIVENESS– Lord, I pray that my children will pay attention to you and your Word so that they do not drift away from you.

“We must pay more careful attention, therefore, to what we have heard, so that we do not drift away.” Hebrews 2:1


CAUTIOUSNESS– I pray, Lord Jesus, that you will help my children to be cautious and not hasty when making decisions in their lives.

“It is not good to have zeal without knowledge, nor to be hasty and miss the way.” Proverbs 19:2


DETERMINATION– Thank you, Lord, for giving my children the determination they need to finish the race so that they may receive their reward from you in heaven.

“I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. Now there is in store for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will award to me on that day—and not only to me, but also to all who have longed for his appearing.” 2 Timothy 4:7-8


DILIGENCE (HARD WORKING)– Teach my children, Lord, to value work and to work hard at everything they do, as working for the Lord, not for men.

“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men,” Colossians 3:23


DISCERNMENT– Oh Lord, give my children the discernment that they need to keep their eyes on you so, that they do not stray from the path you have set for them.

“Put away perversity from your mouth; keep corrupt talk far from your lips. Let your eyes look straight ahead, fix your gaze directly before you. Make level paths for your feet and take only ways that are firm. Do not swerve to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil.” Proverbs 4:24-27


DISCRETION– Give my children the ability to see any danger and the wisdom to turn away from it.

“A prudent man sees danger and takes refuge, but the simple keep going and suffer for it.” Proverbs 22:3


ENDURANCE– Lord, help my children to do good and not give up so that they may reap a harvest in your timing.

“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:9


FORGIVENESS– Lord Jesus, I pray that you will teach my children how to forgive others and that they will recognize the forgiveness that you freely gave to them.

“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32


GENTLENESS– Show my children how to be humble, gentle, patient, and loving with others.

“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” Ephesians 4:2

“Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near.” Phillipians 4:5


HOSPITALITY– Father God, may my children learn how to be hospitable to those around them who are in need.

“Share with God’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.” Romans 12:13

“Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by so doing some people have entertained angels without knowing it.” Hebrews 13:2


INITIATIVE– I pray that you will give my children the initiative to overcome evil with good.

“Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” Romans 12:21


LOYALTY– Heavenly Father, I pray that my children will be loyal to you but also to their family and friends.

“Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.” John 15:13


MEEKNESS– Teach my children to have a meek spirit so that they will know your peace.

“But the meek will inherit the land and enjoy great peace.” Psalm 37:11


OBEDIENCE– Lord Jesus, I pray that you will give my children an obedient heart that desires to please you.

“But Samuel replied: “Does the LORD delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices as much as in obeying the voice of the LORD ? To obey is better than sacrifice…” 1 Samuel 15:22

“We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” 2 Corinthians 10:5


ORDERLINESS– Help my children to do everything in an way that honors you and your Word.

“But everything should be done in a fitting and orderly way.” 1 Corinthians 14:40


RESOURCEFULNESS– Teach my children, oh God, to be trustworthy with all you put in their path and help them to be known for their honesty and resourcefulness.

“Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.” Luke 16:10


REVERENCE– Father in heaven, give my children the desire to give their life to you and worship you whole heartedly.

“Therefore, since we are receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, let us be thankful, and so worship God acceptably with reverence and awe” Hebrews 12:28


SENSITIVITY– Oh Father, help my children to be sensitive to the needs of those around them so that they can be a blessing to them.

“Just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we who are many form one body, and each member belongs to all the others.” Romans 12:4-5


SINCERITY– Father, give my children the ability to do good and love others with true sincerity.

“Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.” Romans 12:9

“Now that you have purified yourselves by obeying the truth so that you have sincere love for your brothers, love one another deeply, from the heart.” 1 Peter 1:22


THOROUGHNESS– Lord, help my children to be thorough in the work that they do so that they are pleasing to you.

“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men” Colossians 3:23


THRIFTINESS– I pray, Lord, that you will teach my children how to be wise with their money and possessions and that they will always know that you are the one who has provided for them.

“So if you have not been trustworthy in handling worldly wealth, who will trust you with true riches?” Luke 16:11


TRUTHFULNESS– Instill a honest spirit into my children so that they will speak in truth.

“Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body.” Ephesians 4:25


VIRTUE– Heavenly Father, I pray that you will continue to make my children virtuous so that they will be known for their Godly character.

“For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness, love. For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.” 2 Peter 1:5-8


Do You Pray For Your Family? (Part 1)

UPDATE: There are now a total of 58 virtues listed on the Biblical virtue prayers page here.

This blog post is Part 1 of this series. For the Part 2 blog post click here.


One of the things that I have become in the habit of doing is praying for my children. I pray every night with each of them before they go to bed. I also pray for them throughout the day; sometimes with them listening and others to myself. I have been getting into the habit of praying for my husband as well. I have to admit that I am not very good at praying for him but the more I do it; the easier it becomes.

I have a “Parent’s Prayer Calendar” that was given to me several years ago. I am not sure who gave it to me or who originally designed the particular one I have (I have seen a few variations). I would like to share the prayers with you (I have added other virtues that I have found). Each day has a Biblical virtue, short prayer, and a Bible verse.

I am also going to post this as a page for my site. This way it will be easy for you (and me) to come back to it in the future.

Some tips for reading the list:

***This is a good guideline for praying for your children but also for praying for your spouses and/or yourself. So you can easily substitute the words “my children” with: “I,”  “Spouse’s Name,” etc.

***Claim and believe that God is working each one of these Biblical virtues into your children’s lives (or your spouse’s life or your own life). I recommend praying 1-2 virtues per day (throughout the day). Work your way down the list. When you have finished the list; start back at the beginning!

***The virtues listed here are in alphabetical order.

***The Biblical virtue is in color, the Prayer is in black, and the Scripture is in red.


BOLDNESS-I pray that my children would fearlessly make known the mystery of the gospel of Christ Jesus.

“Pray also for me, that whenever I open my mouth, words may be given me so that I will fearlessly make known the mystery of the gospel, for which I am an ambassador in chains. Pray that I may declare it fearlessly, as I should.” Ephesians 6:19


COMPASSION– Lord, I pray that you would clothe my children with the virtue of compassion.

“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” Colossians 3:12


CONTENTMENT– Father, teach my children the secret of being content in any and every situation.

“I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.” Philippians 4:12


CONFIDENCE– Lord, please give my children the confidence that they need so that can accomplish anything that is required of them, knowing their strength comes from you.

“I can do everything through him who gives me strength.” Philippians 4:13


COURAGE– Lord, may my children always be strong and courageous in their character and in their actions.

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6


FAITH– I pray that faith will find root and grow in my children’s hearts, that by faith they may take hold of the eternal life to which they were called.

“The apostles said to the Lord, “Increase our faith!” He replied, “If you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mulberry tree, ‘Be uprooted and planted in the sea,’ and it will obey you.” Luke 17:5-6

“Fight the good fight of the faith. Take hold of the eternal life to which you were called when you made your good confession in the presence of many witnesses.” 1 Timothy 6:12


FAITHFULNESS– Let love and faithfulness never leave my children, but bind these twin virtues around their necks and write them on the tablet of their hearts.

“Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart.” Proverbs 3:3


GRACE– I pray that my children may grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

“But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and forever! Amen.” 2 Peter 3:18


GRATITUDE– Lord, help my children to live lives that overflow with thankfulness, always giving thanks to you.

“always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.” Ephesians 5:20


GENEROSITY– Lord, I pray that my children would be rich in good deeds, generous, and willing to share.

“Command them to do good, to be rich in good deeds, and to be generous and willing to share. In this way they will lay up treasure for themselves as a firm foundation for the coming age, so that they may take hold of the life that is truly life.” 1 Timothy 6:18-19


HEART FOR MISSIONS– Lord, please help my children to develop a heart for missions, a desire to see your glory declared among the nations, your marvelous deeds among all peoples.

“Declare his glory among the nations, his marvelous deeds among all peoples.” Psalm 96:3


HOPE– God of hope, grant that my children may overflow with hope and hopefulness by the power of the Holy Sprit.

“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” Romans 15:13


HUMILITY– Father God, please cultivate in my children the ability to show true humility toward all.

“Remind the people to be subject to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready to do whatever is good, to slander no one, to be peaceable and considerate, and to show true humility toward all men.” Titus 3:2


INTEGRITY– Lord, may integrity and uprightness protect my children because their hope is in you.

“May integrity and uprightness protect me, because my hope is in you.” Psalm 25:21


JOY– Heavenly Father, grant that my children would be filled with the joy given by the Holy Spirit.

“…Ask and you will receive, and your joy will be complete.” John 16:24

“You became imitators of us and of the Lord; in spite of severe suffering, you welcomed the message with the joy given by the Holy Spirit.” 1 Thessalonians 1:6


JUSTICE– God, help my children to love justice as you do and act justly in all they do.

“For the LORD is righteous, he loves justice; upright men will see his face.” Psalm 11:7

“He has showed you, O man, what is good. And what does the LORD require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.” Micah 6:8


KINDNESS– Father, I pray that my children always try to be kind to each other and to everyone else.

“Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always try to be kind to each other and to everyone else.” 1 Thessalonians 5:15


LOVE– Father, grant that my children would learn to live a life of love, through the Spirit who lives in them.

“Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart.” Proverbs 3:3

“Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.”   Ephesians 5:1-2


LOVE FOR GOD’S WORD– Lord, may my children regard your Word as more precious than gold and sweeter than honey.

“They are more precious than gold, than much pure gold; they are sweeter than honey, than honey from the comb.” Psalm 19:10


MERCY-Oh Father, grant that my children would be full of mercy and compassion as you are Lord.

“Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.” Luke 6:36

“As you know, we consider blessed those who have persevered. You have heard of Job’s perseverance and have seen what the Lord finally brought about. The Lord is full of compassion and mercy.” James 5:11


PASSION FOR THE GOD– Lord, please instill in my children a soul with a craving for you, a heart that clings passionately to you.

“As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, O God.” Psalm 42:1

“My soul clings to you; your right hand upholds me.” Psalms 63:8


PATIENCE– God, strengthen my children with all power so that they may have great endurance and patience.

“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” Colossians 3:12


PEACE– Father, let my children make every effort to do what leads to peace.

“Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.” Romans 14:19


PERSEVERANCE– Lord, teach my children to persevere in all they do, and help them especially to run with perseverance the race set before them.

“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us.” Hebrews 12:1


PRAYERFULNESS– I ask, Lord, that my children would be committed to prayer and never give up and that they may learn to pray in the Spirit on all occasions.

“Then Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up.” Luke 18:1

“And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints.” Ephesians 6:18


PURITY– Create in my children  a pure heart, O God, and let their purity of heart be shown in their actions.

“Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.” Psalms 51:10


RESPECT– Lord, help my children to show proper respect to everyone, as your Word commands.

“Show proper respect to everyone: Love the brotherhood of believers, fear God, honor the king.” 1 Peter 2:17


RESPONSIBILITY– Please grant that my children would learn to be responsible for each one should carry his own load.

“for each one should carry his own load.” Galatians 6:5


SALVATION– Lord, I pray that my children would obtain the salvation that is in Christ Jesus, with eternal glory.

“You heavens above, rain down righteousness; let the clouds shower it down. Let the earth open wide, let salvation spring up, let righteousness grow with it; I, the LORD, have created it.” Isaiah 45:8

“Therefore I endure everything for the sake of the elect, that they too may obtain the salvation that is in Christ Jesus, with eternal glory.” 2 Timothy 2:10


SELF CONTROL– Father, help my children not be like many others, but to be alert and self-controlled in all they do.

“So then, let us not be like others, who are asleep, but let us be alert and self-controlled.”   1 Thessalonians 5:6


SELF DISCIPLINE– Father, I pray that my children may develop self-discipline, that they may acquire a disciplined and prudent life, doing what is right and just and fair.

“for attaining wisdom and discipline; for understanding words of insight; for acquiring a disciplined and prudent life, doing what is right and just and fair” Proverbs 1:2-3


SELF ESTEEM– God, help my children develop a strong self-esteem rooted in the realization that they are your workmanship.

“For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” Ephesians 2:10


SERVANT’S HEART– Lord, please help my children develop servant hearts, that they may serve wholeheartedly.

“Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not men” Ephesians 6:7


WILLINGNESS AND ABILITY TO WORK HARD– Teach my children, Lord, to value work and to work hard at everything they do, as working for the Lord, not for men.

Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men” Colossians 3:23


WISDOM– Father, I pray my children would ask and that you would generously give wisdom to them as you promise.

“For the LORD gives wisdom, and from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.” Proverbs 2:6

“If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.” James 1:5


Are You Crucifying Him Again?

As I continue my journey toward Easter; I have been reminded about how much I have let Jesus down. I have heard several variations of the following story; and I came up again last week in one of our Bible study sermons (author unknown):

A young lady named Sally, relates an experience she had in a Seminary Class, given by her teacher, Dr. Smith. She says Dr. Smith was known for his elaborate object lessons.

One particular day, Sally walked into the seminary and knew they were in for a fun day. On the wall was a big target and on a nearby table were many darts. Dr. Smith told the students to draw a picture of someone that they disliked or someone who had made them angry, and he would allow them to throw darts at the person’s picture.

Sally’s girlfriend drew a picture of a girl who had stolen her boyfriend. Another friend drew a picture of his little brother. Sally drew a picture of a former friend, putting a great deal of detail into her drawing, even drawing pimples on the face. Sally was pleased at the overall effect she had achieved.

The class lined up and began throwing darts, with much laughter and hilarity. Some of the students threw their darts with such force that their targets were ripping apart.

Sally looked forward to her turn, and was filled with disappointment when Dr. Smith, because of time limits, asked the students to return to their seats. As Sally sat thinking about how angry she was because she didn’t have a chance to throw any darts at her target.

Dr. Smith began removing the target from the wall. Underneath the target was a picture of Jesus …

A complete hush fell over the room as each student viewed the mangled picture of Jesus; holes and jagged marks covered His face and His eyes were pierced. Dr. Smith said only these words … “In as much as ye have done it unto the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto Me.” Matthew 25:40 (KJV)

No other words were necessary; the tear-filled eyes of each student focused only on the picture of Christ.


So often we think that we are just aiming our darts of anger, jealousy, hatred, slander, pride, unforgiveness, etc. toward one person. In reality those darts are hitting Jesus also. As I said in yesterday’s blog on forgiveness (see here if you missed it): “none of us fully understand what we did to Jesus. We crucified Jesus just as much as the Roman soldiers who were there that day. Jesus forgave us when he was on the cross and we were not there to ask for his forgiveness. Jesus forgave us before we were born and he forgave us even though we were undeserving.”

The good news is that even though we deserve death for our sins; Jesus paid the price so that he can offer us the wonderful gift of salvation! Praise God for his grace and mercy!

One of my favorite songs this time of year (and year round) is “Feel The Nails” by Ray Boltz. I think that this song is really helps me to reflect on things in my life that caused Jesus to have to die in order to save me from myself. My sister and I used to do a mime drama to this song when we were kids. The past few years I have had the privilege of teaching it to some teens at our church. Yesterday a couple of them did the drama and it tied into Pastor Brian’s sermon very well. Below is the link to last year’s presentation (I don’t have the video of yesterday’s presentation downloaded yet. I will add it when I get it).

“Feel The Nails” by Ray Boltz

They tell me Jesus died
For my transgressions
That he paid that price a long, long time ago
When he gave his life for me
On a hill called Calvary
But there’s something else I want to know

Does he still feel the nails
Every time I fail
Can he hear the crowd cry “Crucify” again
Am I causing him pain
Then I know I’ve got to change
I just can’t bear the thought of hurting him.

It seems that I’m so good at breaking promises
And I treat his precious grace so carelessly
But each time he forgives
What if he re-lives
The agony He felt on that tree

Chorus 1x

Holy, holy
Holy is the Lord
Holy Holy
Holy is the Lord

Do you still feel the nails
Every time I fail
Have I crucified you Jesus with my sins
Oh I’m tired of playing games
I really want to change
I never want to hurt you again

Holy, Holy
Holy is the Lord
Holy, Holy
Holy is the Lord


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Forgive Them?

Last Sunday I said: “I love it when God uses two (or more) sources, in a short amount of time, to enforce His message to me.” Then proceeded to share how two separate sources gave similar messages within the same day.  Today God did the same thing! It seems that almost every week that I have facilitated the Bible study dealing with anger; God confirms what I have learned with another source! To me that is powerful because it shows me that what I am learning is coming from his heart to mine.

So, like I said, God did this again today. God first revealed this particular message to me last summer. I had several people in my life confirm that the message was authentic at that time. A few weeks ago, the same message came up in our Bible study; allowing me to reflect how I responded to God’s message. Then today, Pastor Brian preached the same exact message, and even said some phrases almost word for word (and I am pretty sure that he did not read our Bible study notes)! The message was all about FORGIVENESS.

Both Pastor Brian (today at church) and Dr. S.M. Davis (a couple of weeks ago through his sermon on DVD entitled: “How To Heal A Wounded Spirit”) talked about how people wound us and how we allow the wound to get worse by not dealing with it properly.

I really liked the following quote from Dr. Davis’ sermon: “If someone wounds you and walks away without doing anything to help; that does not mean that you have to lay there and die.”

He went on to talk about how we need to forgive the person even if they don’t ask for it because: “If someone wounds you either knowingly or unknowingly and walks away; who is going to be in the worse shape 6 months from now if you don’t treat it? You or Them?”

Both Pastor Brian and Dr. Davis addressed the fact that none of us fully understand what we did to Jesus. We crucified Jesus just as much as the Roman soldiers who were there that day. Jesus forgave us when he was on the cross and we were not there to ask for his forgiveness. Jesus forgave us before we were born and he forgave us even though we were undeserving.

“Jesus said, “Father, forgive them,

for they do not know what they are doing…” Luke 23:34

Last summer when my life hit rock bottom; I had to make one of the biggest decisions of my life. Do I forgive the person who wounded me so deeply? I had already forgiven this person almost 4 years before for almost the same offense. Why was it so hard to forgive them again? I think it was because I thought that the circumstance was unfair. After all, I had never done anything that bad to this person. I had already forgiven them once; why should I have to forgive them again for the same thing? They were completely undeserving of my forgiveness! It was even worse that this person did not understand or seem to care about the extent of the wound they caused. This person knew they wounded me and was sorry about it. But if it were up to them; the subject would be dropped, and we would move on, so that things between us could be “normal” again.

After some extensive counseling, and a lot of tears while pouring my heart out to God, I was convicted about how I was thinking. I came to realize that we as humans tend to rate sins or offenses. We put them into categories of “Really Bad,” “Bad,” and “Not So Bad.” I personally rated the offense against me as “Really Bad” and most everyone else probably would too. It wasn’t until I put myself on the same level as the other person that I was able to move away from my view. It doesn’t matter how great or small we as humans look at it; in God’s eyes, sin is sin. Romans 3:23 states:

“for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God”

I needed Jesus to cleanse me of my sins just like this other person needed the same. I realized that just as Jesus forgave me for crucifying him; I needed to forgive this person for wounding me.

During the forgiving process that I went through; I also recognized that there were things that I did to contribute to what had happened. I could no longer put all of the blame on the offender. This turned the tables a lot! That meant that I had some work to do on my end.

I can now say that I truly have forgiven this person and that the offense is behind us. I’m not saying that it doesn’t surface at times or that either of us are completely healed. I am saying that God is working in both of our lives and the healing process is continuing. If I had stayed in my unforgiving state; then I would have become bitter and I would have suffered an even greater wound. Instead, I chose to be obedient to God and fully depend on him to get me out of the pit I was in. I praise God for working my life and allowing me to grow because of this experience.

And since we are on the topic of forgiveness;

here is a cute Veggie Tales clip on the subject!

Revolving Around The Military

When living in a military community; you become accustomed to saying goodbye to good friends on a regular basis. Unfortunately; that’s just the way military life is.  Families are typically stationed in one place for 2-4 years. Then they are transfered to another location. Because of this; military wives tend to be a little more vulnerable so that friendships can built quicker (I am not saying this is true of all military wives; this has just been what I have noticed). Hugs, tears, and promises of staying in touch are all present when you say goodbye to someone who has been your family. One good thing about military moves is that they create a network of friends world wide. For instance, I know that if I ever get stationed in Germany, England, Japan, and several states in the US, that I would have a friend (or friends) there. Another plus is that even if you are not stationed at a particular place; you still may have the opportunity of visiting friends. Last summer when I when I went back to the states to visit family in Delaware, Iowa, & Michigan; I also had the privilege of visiting close friends in Virginia. I had met these friends here in Okinawa and they just happened to be stationed a few hours away from my family in Delaware!

With our PCS time on the horizon; we have had several people ask the typical questions that go along with that:

  • “Where are you going next?”
  • “When are you leaving?”
  • “When will you visit family?”
  • etc…

The answers to all of them are “We don’t know yet.” Unfortunately, that is another downside to military life. We have to wait patiently for them to tell us where they are sending us and on what timetable. It can be easy for us to get anxious about the unknown. One of our friends thought that they were going one place but when they got orders it was to a completely different place. Another friend didn’t actually get orders until a few weeks before they had to move. And another friend just got orders to one of the places that she was hoping for. Even though we know we are leaving this summer; we can’t actually plan anything until we get orders because everything that we have to do to prepare for moving revolves around them (and if you know anything about me; you know that I like to plan ahead). Regardless of where the military sends us and when; I have to keep my trust in God and know that he has a plan. God already knows what I don’t know. Ultimately we will be where he wants us to be.

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD,

“plans to prosper you and not to harm you,

plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11

[And for those of you who are not military but live in other countries like Canada & Australia; I know I have friends there too :)]

Nothing New Today

My kids were sick today and I have been reading the start of a novel that my friend is writing (in order to give him feedback)… so I didn’t have time to focus on writing a blog.

I guess I will just use this opportunity to say that I may not be able to write everyday (for those of you who check everyday). Since starting my blog site; writing everyday has been very therapeutic for me in a way that journaling isn’t. So I definitely will attempt to blog almost everyday. I assume that most of you will understand when life gets in the way every once in awhile.

I didn’t get much sleep last night (due to my girls waking up several times) so right now I am pretty tired. I don’t think I will be able to go to bed for another few hours so I will probably crash as soon as I hit the pillow…I’ll leave you with the following verses:

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” Matthew 11:28-29

God is good!

[Update-March 27: I woke up once last night when Audrey lost her binki, but other than that both girls slept through the night. They let me sleep until almost 7am (they usually wake up before 6am)! I would love to sleep in more but I’ll take what God gives me 🙂 My coffee just finished brewing…]

By Alysa Posted in Life

God Cares About The Small Stuff!

This morning I was doing dishes when I noticed that my youngest daughter Audrey was playing with my car keys. I didn’t really think anything of it. I just continued on with my morning routine. After the dishes; I checked my e-mail, got both girls and myself dressed and ready for the day, made Kendal’s lunch, packed the book bag, Bible study bag, and diaper bag, took the dog out, etc. When it was finally time to leave to take Kendal to school; I had Audrey and all of the bags listed above (as well as my purse) in my arms. I realized that I did not have my keys. Without really thinking about it I went back to the kitchen and looked around where I saw Audrey playing with them. I opened a cabinet and found them laying behind a bag of sugar. Then I proceeded to get the girls and all the bags in the car. As I was driving; I realized how smoothly the morning went and just how much God cares about me.

With my husband out of the country; I am left doing all of the household and children responsibilities by myself. When my husband is home he usually is able to help but we usually still end up rushing out the door and running late. When I can’t find my keys at the last minute that usually sets me off into a rushing panic (especially if I am supposed to be somewhere by a certain time). I realized in the car that in all of the times I haven’t been able to find my keys…I have never looked in a kitchen cabinet while looking for them. Yet, today I did because of a brief moment of seeing Audrey playing with them. I can clearly imagine the panic I would have been in if I was not able to find them this morning. Today, I was already running a little bit late. If I had not been able to find my keys, I would have had no way of getting Kendal to school and myself to the Bible study that I facilitate.

Some people may brush this experience off as “no big deal” but I am truly blessed to love and serve a God who cares about me. It is because of moments like these that I can trust God when I start to worry or get anxious about things that are going wrong or not according to plan. We are told in the Bible to:

“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7

Isn’t that encouraging???

Would You Choose Life Or Death?

I am always touched when I hear about or read about Christians being persecuted or martyred for their faith. I have a book written by Voice Of The Martyrs called “Extreme Devotion”. Each day it tells a different story. I have often wondered if that type of situation ever came if I would be able to make the right decision. I would like to say that I would but I can think of a few things that would probably hold me back… my children being two of them. It seems to me that Christians who live in countries where Christianity is not accepted by the people and/or the government tend to have a stronger relationship with God. Maybe it is because their faith is tested more regularly?

I think that Christians in America tend to get complacent in their Christianity. We get comfortable with our lives and stay so busy that we go all day or all week without thinking about our walk with God. I know that not everyone is like that but there are times that I have done it. Over the past 6 months or so; I have really tried to focus on what is important… my relationships with God, my husband, and my children. I am not saying that it is wrong to be busy but when your life hits rock bottom (like mine did last summer); you realize that something has got to give. I still stay somewhat busy but I did cut several things out of my life in order to make more time for God and my family.

Our world is constantly changing. Someday we may be the ones who are persecuted. Now is the time to build our faith foundation; now is the time to grow in Christ! I am constantly encouraged by those who have already faced or are currently facing the challenge. I count it a privilege to support them through prayer and sometimes financially. [You can order a persecution prayer map from the VOM website below.]

Remember those in prison as if you were their fellow prisoners,

and those who are mistreated as if you yourselves were suffering.”

Hebrews 13:3

I am thankful that I have never been in the situation where I have to choose between life denying Christ or death proclaiming Christ. But if that time comes; I pray that God will give me the courage to stand for Him!

For more about Voice Of The Martyrs; click here.

For more about Extreme Devotion and other similar resources click here.