About Boycotting…

I have spent a week praying about the topic that I am going to blog about today. In the past week, I have also asked several Christian friends their opinions on the subject. I found that most people agreed with me but there were a few who did not. Unfortunately, I was unable to get the opinion of friends who do not believe in the Bible, so I do not presume to know their opinion of the topic except for what I have seen expressed on facebook or in online comments on news articles.

If you have seen the news or have had any presence online in the last week or so, I am sure that you have heard of the conflict between the media and Chick Fil-A. In an interview, the company’s CEO stated that he supports traditional marriage which caused an uproar in the gay and liberal communities. Anyone who knows anything about Chick Fil-A would also know that the company was founded by a Christian man and has been run with Christian based values its entire existence. Despite pressure from communities, Chick Fil-A closes its doors on Sundays so that its employees have the option to go to church if they choose to do so.

(Be sure to scroll down to the bottom of this post for the New Chick Fil-A song)

What surprises me (well actually it doesn’t really) is that when the company’s CEO was asked his opinion in the interview, and he stated it according to well-known Christian beliefs, the media acted shocked at his response.

Of course, the gay community immediately jumped to the conclusion that Chick Fil-A and its CEO and owners hates all gays. This is something that I do not understand. Why does disagreeing with homosexuality automatically equal hatred towards or afraid of homosexuals? I might disagree with someone on any topic (religion, how to raise kids, what movies or books we like, how we spend our money, etc) but that doesn’t mean I hate them or am afraid of them. In my opinion, only when someone’s actions show that they are hateful or afraid, should that argument be used (such as Westboro church has so frequently demonstrated). Anyway, due to their misguided opinion, a lot of the liberal community has declared a boycott on Chick Fil-A. For some reason, it seems as though gays only seem to have an intolerance toward Christians and Christian companies when Biblically based beliefs are expressed. I wonder if they realize that all Abrahamic religions (Christian, Judaism, Islam) as well as other world religions find homosexuality morally wrong.

Which brings me to the point of my post. Obviously most people tend to support companies either that support their values and/or that provide goods/services that we need or want. (For example, if I need a Christian book I more than likely will purchase it from a Christian book store instead of a large book store chain unless the Christian book store didn’t have the book I needed). But what reason(s) would make someone choose to boycott certain companies? When I asked this question of friends, I received several responses.

One friend says he has a loose boycott of all large corporations.  Whenever possible he shops local and pays slightly more for things but he does so knowing that 100% of the retail markup goes to local people; who then spend it locally. This doesn’t prevent him from shopping at larger corporations if commissions from his purchases will help a personal friend or if a local shop is closed and there is an immediate need for an item or service.

Another friend tries to avoid all companies that he knows are pro-gay.

Yet another friend has a whole list of companies that she boycotts based on the following three reasons “1) open hatred of Christians in general 2) Use of practices that are in direct opposition to God’s will, like using aborted stem cells for flavor enhancement and 3) support of agendas that hurt the morality of the country, abortion, homosexuality, promiscuity etc. “

Another friend points out that “in 1 Corinthians 8, Paul is telling believers that there is no harm in buying and eating meat that had been sacrificed to idols. The issue he was addressing was one of whether eating that meat caused a brother to stumble, but the context of the verse is that in the first-century, pagan temples funded themselves in part by selling the meat that they sacrificed. A Christian, knowing that idols are nothing, could purchase and eat that meat without fear of incurring the wrath of said idol, but apparently, Paul had no problem with money passing into hands of pagan temples from Christian pockets.”

My husband said that according to the Bible, we should fast in private without announcing it to the world which would bring glory to ourselves instead of God. So he feels that if a Christian is going to boycott a company, they should do it quietly so as to not draw attention to themselves so that they do not seem “more holy than thou, preachy, a bully, or intolerant.”

So, what do I think? I think in most cases, when Christians and conservatives boycott non-Christians and liberals then we are all feeding into a vicious cycle. I think more often than not when this happens, both sides are being hypocritical. We Christians want non-Christians to be to tolerant of our religious beliefs. Gays want Christians to be tolerant of their sexual orientation. Yet when both sides boycott every company that may or may not disagree with our beliefs, both sides are in fact being intolerant. Our country was founded on freedom. In this country, I have the right to be a Christian. Someone else has the right to be gay. I also have the right to believe that homosexuality is morally wrong just as someone who is not a Christian has the right to not believe in my God or my Bible. All that being said, if someone (conservative or liberal) truly has a conviction to boycott a company or cause, I believe they should follow their convictions. But they should do it without spouting hate and judgement towards the company they are boycotting. There are companies/organizations that I do not support because they go against my beliefs. There are also plenty of companies that I still shop at or use their services even though they may have some history of disagreeing with my beliefs. We should stick to our convictions with humility and recognize that others have different convictions without being judgemental towards each other.

I love the following song which reminds us that sometimes we as Christians stand in the way of others knowing Jesus.

Jesus, Friend Of Sinners  By: Casting Crowns

Jesus, friend of sinners
We have strayed so far away
We cut down people in Your name
But the sword was never ours to swing
Jesus, friend of sinners
The truth’s become so hard to see
The world is on their way to You
But they’re tripping over me

Always looking around but never looking up
I’m so double minded
A plank-eyed saint with dirty hands
And a heart divided

Oh Jesus, friend of sinners
Open our eyes to the world
At the end our pointing fingers
Let our hearts be led by mercy
Help us reach with open hearts and open doors
Oh Jesus, friend of sinners
Break our hearts for what breaks Yours

Jesus, friend of sinners
The One whose writing in the sand
Made the righteous turn away
And the stones fall from their hands
Help us to remember
We are all the least of these
Let the memory of Your mercy
Bring Your people to their knees

Nobody knows what we’re for
Only what we’re against
When we judge the wounded
What if we put down our signs
Crossed over the lines
And loved like You did

You love every lost cause
You reach for the outcast
For the leper and the lame
They’re the reason that You came
Lord, I was that lost cause
And I was the outcast
But You died for sinners just like me
A grateful leper at Your feet

‘Cause You are good
You are good
And Your love endures forever
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And just for fun, here is the New Chick Fil-A song by Tim Hawkins…

My Summer Has Not Gone As Planned…

On May 25th, I posted an update to inform my readers of updates and plans for life & blog… Less than 3 days later, Sunday night before Memorial Day, my summer plans went out the window with a blood-curling scream from my daughter’s bedroom. I ran to see what happened and found Audrey (3) on the floor, obviously in extreme pain, holding her arm. Apparently, Kendal (5) pushed her off the bed as they were playing…when they were supposed to waiting quietly for me to come in and pray for them and tuck them in. I scolded Kendal and told her to stay in bed as I carried Audrey out to the kitchen. I sat her down and iced her arm with “Dora kisses” (our boo-boo freezer pouch). After 20 minutes of crying/screaming with no signs of stopping, I pulled out my children’s medical symptoms book and started a range of motion assessment. This only made her scream more. After the 30 minute mark, I decided to take her to the ER.

I called our babysitter who said Kendal could stay with her (thank God!) as I got the girls in the car. I dropped Kendal off then drove the 20 minutes to town. By the time we got there, Audrey had fallen asleep but immediately woke up and started crying again when I pulled her out of the car seat. Fortunately, we did not have to wait to go to triage and we were taken to a room right after the nurse’s assessment. We did, however, have to wait awhile before someone came in to take x-rays. The on-call orthopedic doctor was in surgery (so we didn’t actually see him during this time) but gave the word that there was a serious break in the humerus bone directly above the elbow and that he needed a repeat x-ray from a different angle to determine if Audrey needed urgent surgery (scary!). After the second x-ray, the ortho doctor sent word that the arm needed a hard splint. Audrey still describes her favorite ER person, “the man with the blue pants and the white shirt and black hair” (actually an EMT), who put the splint on. The ortho doctor finally came to the room, along with the x-ray team, to get a 3rd picture while the splint was on. This was to confirm that she did NOT need surgery and to ensure the arm was positioned correctly. After lots of stickers, meds, and a total of 4 hours of being in the hospital, we could finally go home…

…but not without restrictions. Audrey had to keep her arm elevated as much as possible. I had to alternate tylenol and motrin around the clock as needed for pain. She could do nothing that could put her at risk for another fall or re-injury (jungle gyms, running, etc.). And nothing that could cause her arm/splint to get wet (swimming, bathing, etc.). Did I mention that I had just bought a season pass to the base pool?

So, after we woke up in the morning, I realized that I was completely out of children’s tylenol AND children’s motrin. I am really not sure how that happened since I usually keep both on hand. Our babysitter, walked Kendal back to the house and was willing to stay with the girls while I went to the store. Of course, the base shoppett didn’t have children’s liquid tylenol or motrin, the commissary is always closed on Mondays, and the BX was closed at the time too (not sure if it was because it was Memorial Day or if it was because it was too early in the morning). So I had to make the 30 minute drive to go to Walmart. While I was there, I picked up a couple of activities and snacks (she specifically asked for popsicles). When I got home, I propped her up on the couch with pillows under her arm and everything she needed within reach.

The next day, she was up and moving around a little more so I put her sling on so that she could start to get used to it. She didn’t really like it but understood that she had to wear it. The following photo was a smile for daddy. Shane, by the way, was (and still is as of the writing of this post) in Arkansas during this whole ordeal. I kept him posted by phone the whole time we were at the ER. He hated not being there to help her.

And a couple of days later, we still had her propped up on the couch as much as possible. She fell asleep watching a movie and instead of moving her to her room, I just let her sleep until I went to bed.

After the first few days, she started to feel better. I still gave her meds around the clock but I didn’t make her stay on the couch or bed all day long. Having a broken arm really did not slow her down at all. And we did cheat a couple of times when I triple bagged up her arm so that she could play in the kiddie pool or sprinkler.

Six weeks later, the doctor (who had been seeing her almost weekly) said that it was healed enough that the hard splint could come off. It is not completely healed but it was enough that it didn’t need to be in the same position anymore. He said that kids her age usually regain full mobility on their own so he didn’t refer her to Physical Therapy. But we go back later this week to find out if it is needed (after two weeks of being out of the splint). We were overjoyed to hear that we could officially go swimming and we went immediately after leaving the doctor’s office!

Needless to say, I have not accomplished much during the last 2 months. I really did intend to homeschool Kendal starting the end of May but I was not consistent during June. I did manage to get her to Vacation Bible School for a whole week during June! So we officially began homeschooling in July. It has been going ok but both Kendal and I have needed motivation. I now have several sticker charts (for several different things to track), a reward/prize box of goodies for her to choose from when she fills her sticker charts, and mainly a personal incentive (which she is excited about too) to go to Tutti Frutti’s when she gets so many stickers.

Along with everything else not mentioned in this blog post, we have had a busy summer. I am ready for vacation! During the month of August we will be visiting Shane for our 10 year Anniversary and visiting his family and part of my family (who will be driving out to meet us for a few days!). We are super excited and soooooo ready for a break from everything! Through it all, God is so good!

***UPDATE*** When we returned to the doctor for her follow-up, we were told that she no longer needs to go back to the doctor. No physical therapy will be needed! I will still be cautious with certain activities for the next few weeks (for my own peace of mind) but otherwise she is healed!

My Thoughts On The Colorado Tragedy

***UPDATE: I have added a link (below) to another article that tells of one survior’s story! God is so Good even in the midst of tragedy.***

I don’t have cable or satellite. And for once in my life I did not log on to my computer to check Facebook for a full 24 hours. After working all day on Saturday, I first heard that something bad had happened as I was listening to the K-Love radio station. They didn’t say what happened, just something along the lines of “join us in praying for the victims of the tragedy in Colorado.” When I returned home, I put my girls in bed and grabbed a snack. Then I sat down at the computer and googled “Colorado News” and immediately I knew what happened.

I found an article that showed photos of several of the victims along with a brief statement about each of them. My heart broke when I saw that a 6-year-old girl did not survive and that her mother was still in critical condition. Does the mother know that her daughter died? I don’t know. I can only imagine the pain that family is suffering. Also striking a cord in my heartstrings was the news of a military man who died… Not on the battle field or in the line of duty but as he was enjoying his free time (which for most military members is a luxury). The last count I saw was 12 dead and 58 injured…Ranking this as one of the most horrific shootings in the US.

Then there is the suspect. What was going through his mind? Obviously he has been making preparations for this for several weeks. By most accounts, until that night, he was an educated and upstanding citizen with no history of violence or crime. Why would he all of a sudden decide to throw his life away along with the lives of his victims?

I don’t know why the suspect did what he did. I don’t know why some people died and some people did not. I do know that God hears the cries of the hurting. Join me in praying for everyone involved with this tragedy.

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I came across the following article today which has an interesting perspective that most people would not initially think about:

The Dark Knight Rises Indeed

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I also read this article written Friday (20th) by a mom who was at the theater during the shooting:

So you STILL think God is a merciful God?!

The same mom also wrote the following blog post Saturday (21st) in response to all of the e-mails and comments she received from her first post:

A Response to the Overwhelming Number of Responses

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Here is an amazing story of one of the survivors! God is so Good!

A Miracle Inside the Aurora Shooting: One Victim’s Story

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I am also reminded of a song… The Reason For The World  by: Matthew West

The Lily Series- The Beauty Book

The Beauty Book by Nancy Rue is a non-fiction book that addresses questions and concerns that pre-teen girls often have. This book has been added to The Lily Series and speaks as if fictional Lily is talking to the reader. There are Q & A, quizzes, illustrations, scripture, journaling, and activities in every chapter.  The book discusses general beauty information like how to clean your face to prevent pimples,  how to give yourself a manicure & pedicure, when should you wear makeup, should you get piercings or tattoos, what if you are too tall or have to wear glasses, etc. The focus is to embrace the way God sees us and how he created us instead of focusing on what the world portrays as beautiful.

Overall, I enjoyed reading the book and think that it would be good for a pre-teen who is starting to deal with issues relating to her body and her concept of what beauty is. I’m not sure that the publisher’s suggestion of ages 7-11 is appropriate. My oldest girl is 5 and I just don’t see the information in this book being relevant to her in only 2 years. I would suggest an age group that is slightly older like in the middle school ages.

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On a side note that has more to do with Biblical context instead of Beauty issues… There was one thing that stood out to me as being negative and that was in the discussion of tattoos (which is a touchy subject to a lot of people so I will try to explain my point as best as I can without getting into the debate of right or wrong). The author’s advice to girls when it comes to things like tattoos, piercings, makeup, etc. is talking to parents and respecting their decision on the subject. I do agree with this advice! The issue that I have with her discussion of tattoos is how she quoted scripture without giving explanation. Here is the Q & A I am referring too. This comes after several Q & A’s relating to piercings and tattoos that addressed appearance, pain, danger etc (which were all answered to my satisfaction):

Q: Would it be all right to get the kind you just stick on?

A: Is it all right with-you guessed it- your parents? They might not like even the idea of a tattoo, real or fake. Leviticus 19:28 does say, “Do not…put tattoo marks on yourselves.” Of course, Leviticus 19:27 also says, “Do not… clip the edges of your beard.”

…and she leaves it at that. To a pre-teen or anyone who has not studied scripture, this statement could cause a lot of questions. People often refer to Leviticus 19:28 as why Christians shouldn’t have tattoos but the same people do trim their beards, cut their hair, eat pork, or do other things listed as forbidden in the old testament. She fails to explain the old law versus the new law and how there is a difference between ceremonial requirements (which are no longer binding under the new law–such as cutting hair) and moral requirements (which are binding–like do not worship other Gods or do not commit adultery). I realize that my issue with this goes far beyond what was probably intended by the author and that it is a subject that can easily be talked about and researched with parental guidance. I just felt that I should caution that the way it was worded could cause more questions (which is a good thing if the parents are willing to have deeper discussions!)

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In accordance with the Federal Trade Commission I am required to disclose that Thomas Nelson provided this book for free in exchange for my review. I was not required to write a positive review and the opinions I have expressed are my own.

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The Beauty Book: It’s A God Thing

By Nancy Rue / Thomas Nelson

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