Blog & Personal Updates

First, I want to apologize to all of my wordpress & email subscribers for me not posting since February. I also apologize as well to those who have been awaiting mail from my Cards of Encouragement endeavor that I started this year. I will be resume posting this month (I have several book reviews to post!) and I will resume sending out Cards of Encouragement to those who have signed up starting in July!

Second, the reason behind my blogging absence is that in February I discovered that I was pregnant and have had a lot of complications and sickness because of the pregnancy. If you have followed my blog for awhile you may already be aware of my miscarriage history. The concern quickly became apparent with this pregnancy due to the spotting and cramping that I have had pretty much the whole time so far. Also the “morning sickness” which for me lasted all day was extreme during the months of March & April. Between the complications, sickness, dehydration, hospital visits, etc. I was pretty much in bed most of those months. In May, the sickness started to subside and I was able to start functioning much better. This month, I have been doing great most of the time! I have still had occasional cramping but no spotting or vomiting. Which, trust me, is an answer to prayer!

Because of my history of miscarriage and hemorrhaging due to retained placenta after my second daughter was born, my doctors have been monitoring me closely by doing ultrasounds every 4 weeks. We have also started discussing a birthing plan that will hopefully help prevent complications if I should have retained placenta again. As well as a plan for quick surgery action, if I do have complications. Prayer for these decisions and that I do not have complications will be greatly appreciated!

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So without further delay, I am happy to announce that we are expecting a baby BOY to arrive sometime in October! We have two girls ages 9 and 7 so we are basically starting from scratch with planning for a newborn! This ultrasound photo was taken at 14 weeks! I am currently in my 22nd week. Please pray for my health and the baby’s health throughout the pregnancy. Also, like I mentioned above, pray for no complications during the delivery and our decisions we make for our birthing plan.

My Thoughts On The Colorado Tragedy

***UPDATE: I have added a link (below) to another article that tells of one survior’s story! God is so Good even in the midst of tragedy.***

I don’t have cable or satellite. And for once in my life I did not log on to my computer to check Facebook for a full 24 hours. After working all day on Saturday, I first heard that something bad had happened as I was listening to the K-Love radio station. They didn’t say what happened, just something along the lines of “join us in praying for the victims of the tragedy in Colorado.” When I returned home, I put my girls in bed and grabbed a snack. Then I sat down at the computer and googled “Colorado News” and immediately I knew what happened.

I found an article that showed photos of several of the victims along with a brief statement about each of them. My heart broke when I saw that a 6-year-old girl did not survive and that her mother was still in critical condition. Does the mother know that her daughter died? I don’t know. I can only imagine the pain that family is suffering. Also striking a cord in my heartstrings was the news of a military man who died… Not on the battle field or in the line of duty but as he was enjoying his free time (which for most military members is a luxury). The last count I saw was 12 dead and 58 injured…Ranking this as one of the most horrific shootings in the US.

Then there is the suspect. What was going through his mind? Obviously he has been making preparations for this for several weeks. By most accounts, until that night, he was an educated and upstanding citizen with no history of violence or crime. Why would he all of a sudden decide to throw his life away along with the lives of his victims?

I don’t know why the suspect did what he did. I don’t know why some people died and some people did not. I do know that God hears the cries of the hurting. Join me in praying for everyone involved with this tragedy.

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I came across the following article today which has an interesting perspective that most people would not initially think about:

The Dark Knight Rises Indeed

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I also read this article written Friday (20th) by a mom who was at the theater during the shooting:

So you STILL think God is a merciful God?!

The same mom also wrote the following blog post Saturday (21st) in response to all of the e-mails and comments she received from her first post:

A Response to the Overwhelming Number of Responses

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Here is an amazing story of one of the survivors! God is so Good!

A Miracle Inside the Aurora Shooting: One Victim’s Story

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I am also reminded of a song… The Reason For The World  by: Matthew West

She’s Gonna Blow: Underground Issues (Ch.4-Part 2)

Thank you for your patience over the past few months when I took a break from this study. I know that several of you (and me too!) have been looking forward to the continuation of this book (and chapter). Please Note: Due to the length of this chapter; it is divided into two blog posts. Click here to read Part 1.

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Why do we blow up the way we do? Let’s continue with the remainder Underground Issues that may influence us as Barnhill describes them in chapter four.

4. Mounting Pressures: Cheerios Between Your Toes: There are several things that are just as annoying and frustrating as stepping on a pile of cheerios in the middle of the night.

The Family Schedule: “Most moms…seem to be incredibly busy people with…long list of places to go, things to do, and people to see.” Its no wonder why these moms and their children are wiped out after a busy day. When we allow the busyness of our schedules accumulate it adds unnecessary pressure on husbands, children & moms.

Finances: Julie quotes her friend’s father as saying. “Money isn’t important as long as you have it. When all of sudden you don’t have it–then it becomes very important.” Living pay check to pay check, supporting children, and figuring out the financial priorities for your family always adds to the daily pressure.

Discontentment and the “Shoulds”: “a feeling of discontent is almost alway a first step toward a full-blown eruption. Whenever I start thinking that I am not good enough, that someone has it better than I do, that my children don’t measure up, that my life just hasn’t turned out the way I wanted…it won’t be long before sparks begin to fly…The world should treat me better. I shouldn’t make mistakes. Other people should behave the way I want them to.” Our expectations of how things should be can create many added pressures to life.

The Problem of Inappropriate Guilt: The mothering guilt of what ever happens to our children is “my fault because I’m the mom” would be an example. We are responsible for our children and their upbringing but when the guilt of not being a perfect mom overwhelms us it adds to the pressure.

Anger at People Who Are Not Your Kids: “Yes–we do let our anger toward our husbands [bosses, mothers, etc.] get misdirected toward our children, who happen to be handy and rather defenseless targets…The longer we go along with unresolved anger toward anyone, the more likely we are to unfairly unleash that anger on…our children.”

5. Your Precious Little (or Big!) Trigger Points: CHILDREN! “I have come to believe that in most cases the immediate cause of angry explosions is…well, a child…What is it about our children that sets us off so easily?”

The Things They Do: “In the deepest part of our mother brain, we know that “kids will be kids,” that it’s normal and even healthy for them to make mistakes and act immature and even get themselves into trouble. Yet, those moments when they do just that can trigger such frustration–and lead to volcanic responses from us.” Disobedience which leads to injury, tantrums at scheduled nap times, disrespectful attitudes, fighting with siblings, etc. are all among the list.

The Things They Say: The continuous shouting of “Mom!,” a smart-aleck remark, an argument, a debate, a complaint, etc. all have a way of scraping at our nerves. “There are so many ways our children communicate to us that can trigger potential eruptions, from the first “waaaaa” of infancy through the “whys” of toddlerhood and on into the innocent or defiant “whats” of later childhood and adolescence. The real trick is learning to listen past all those annoying communications and hear the real message behind them, which is “Mom, I love you and I need you.” If we could hear that every time, we could reduce a lot of the pressure potential in what our children say!”

The Way They Are: Do you have a strong willed, high-spirited, self-determined, independent child? Do you have a quiet, detail oriented, emotional child? Do you think any of your children need to be fixed? Slow Down! instead of speeding up, Eat More Slowly! instead of gobbling, Use Indoor Voice! instead of talking loudly, Quit Wiggling! instead of moving constantly, Stop Crying!, Stop Whining!, the list goes on. How many of YOUR strengths and weaknesses do you see in your children? Barnhill quotes a speaker as saying, ” God did not give you your son [or daughter] so you could ‘fix’ him or whip him into shape. God gave you your son [or daughter] to make you more like Jesus.”

Lately, my “Cheerios” have included frustration over our schedules and finances. As some of you may know, I have been trying to homeschool my soon to be 4 year old who has no attention span for school or anything else. I am not very consistent so it make it worse and my husband’s constantly changing work schedule doesn’t help either. Also, in the past 2 weeks, everyone in the household being sick with stomach bugs. Last week, the girls and my husband had a 24 hour stomach bug separately on 3 consecutive days. I got it earlier this week then the girls got a new bug and have been sick for the past 3 days. After 2 weeks of being the one who gets up in the middle of the night to clean the vomit and diarrhea off of children, clothes, beds, and floors–it is no surprise that I caught the second bug too. Equally as frustrating is, again, my husband’s work schedule which causes him to be at work or sleeping during the times I need his help. As far as finances go, we don’t have extra money since coming back to the US because we are getting paid less than we were overseas. Wondering if the savings money we have been dipping into will last until Shane makes rank and we get our tax refund is definitely pressure in our house.

Barnhill points out that “Doctors have noted that children tend to throw temper tantrums for the following reasons: ~They are angry or frustrated because they can’t have something they want. ~They want to get what they want by themselves. ~They want attention. ~They are tired, hungry, or irritable.” How many times are these the reasons why I am blowing up? Pretty often! I think that I need to focus my attention on myself sometimes instead of throwing my frustrations on my children for having the same emotions I do. We all need grace. God is always faithful to extend his grace to me; I need to learn how to extend it to my children sometimes.

Do you have a close friend, spouse, or counselor whom you can share your struggles with? I have been doing the She’s Gonna Blow study with a couple of close friends. We read the chapters then e-mail each other our responses to the questions. We pray for and encourage each other frequently. If you do not, I encourage you to find someone who is willing to hold you accountable with your anger. The more I get angry, the more I get angry at myself for getting angry. Sometimes having someone that I can call to let them know I blew up (again) and then have them pray for me is the best way to move towards healing.

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She’s Gonna Blow: Real Help for Moms Dealing with Anger

By Julie Ann Barnhill / Harvest House Publishers

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I would love to hear your thoughts and stories if you have ever dealt with anger in your life!

Please feel free to comment on my posts and/or e-mail me at:  hearttreasurescontact@yahoo.com

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You can find links to all posts in this series on the Anger Series Index page.

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She’s Gonna Blow: Underground Issues (Ch.4-Part 1)

Please Note: Due to the length of this chapter; it is divided into two blog posts. Click here to read Part 2.

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Why do we blow up the way we do? Barnhill describes some of the Underground Issues that may influence us in chapter four.

1. Down Deep: Like a volcano we all have a “mantle” (“where the heat and pressure are strong enough to bring rock to the melting point”). Issues include “what we were born with and what has happened to us in the past.” On top of that we have every day stressors: schedules, finances, relationships, and our roles as women, mothers, wives, & workers. Then we have trigger points which for most moms can include our children (who either intentionally or unintentionally find our weak spots).

2. Pressures From The Past: In the beginning of this section, Julie Ann describes painful memories (and lack of memories) of her pre-adoption life as well as a confrontation that occurred after she was adopted that forced her to face the past. “Chances are, your anger toward your children has its deepest roots in underground issues from your past. Any traumas you experience in your early years–a divorce, a sibling’s illness or death, or just painful misunderstandings–are sure to play a significant role in your own family further down the road of life. And if you were abused, the stakes get even higher.”

3. Pressures From Within: These include our physical makeup, our temperament, and our thought processes. Some of these are natural and others are learned. Being a woman adds other pressures such as PMS, pregnancy, & menopause which all “have the ability to affect the way she responds to her children” or husband. These pressures should not be excuses for bad behavior and angry blow ups. But, “the more we can understand ourselves and make adjustments in the area of our weaknesses, the more effective we will be as mothers” and wives.

I was raised in a Christian but very dysfunctional family. As the oldest of 4 kids I had to grow up way too quickly while we dealt with severe illnesses, divorce, remarriages, constant moves, financial insecurity, and a whole lot more. Both of my parents were constantly angry and yelled a lot; either at each other or at us kids. I swore that I would not be angry like them with my children but I am. My mom was very good at encouraging us to pray and read scripture. She often posted scripture around the house which is something that I do as well. I continually turn to prayer after I have an angry blow up.

I tend to react according to the amount of sleep I get. I am a light sleeper so almost anything will wake me up in the middle of the night. I do my best work at night (after the kids go to bed) so I tend to stay up late. I get my best sleep in the morning hours. Unfortunately, when Shane goes to work I have to get up with the girls and end up loosing my prime sleeping time. When Shane is home in the mornings I try to catch up on sleep. I also try not to make my schedule super busy throughout the day so that I don’t add to my fatigue.

Barnhill asks the question: “Do you have any anger about the way God made you?” In a way I think that I do. I don’t understand why he has not healed me from this. I know that he wants me to conquer my anger but it is hard for me to see how he is helping me change (with the exception of making me aware of how bad it is). This has been a continual battle for me.

Chapter 4 continues in Part 2.

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She’s Gonna Blow: Real Help for Moms Dealing with Anger

By Julie Ann Barnhill / Harvest House Publishers

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I would love to hear your thoughts and stories if you have ever dealt with anger in your life!

Please feel free to comment on my posts and/or e-mail me at:  hearttreasurescontact@yahoo.com

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You can find links to all posts in this series on the Anger Series Index page.

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Blog Updates!

Congratulations Fiona & James on the birth of Lilian Angela!!! Lily was born 4:53am on Friday, August 13th. You may remember that I featured Fiona as a guest writer during my Mother’s Day series. She described her experiences as a first time pregnant mom (“mum”-in Australian). If you missed her post; check it out here. Next step is trying to convince her to write about her first few weeks of motherhood 🙂

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The Countdown has ended and we have arrived in North Dakota! God has blessed us from the moment we arrived (more on that soon)! We are in a new home but we are still waiting on all of our belongings to travel here from Japan. We have been told that our express shipment with all of our clothes, all of our kitchen, homeschooling materials, and the girl’s beds will arrive next week. Of course we were originally told that they would arrive this week…so we shall see 🙂 The large shipment which has all of our furniture and everything else could take up to November to get here. I am praying that it arrives much sooner! In the meantime, we are living on borrowed air mattresses and minimal kitchen supplies along with what we packed in our suitcases. We have bought a few things that we know are not coming in shipments but without the furniture our house is mostly empty. Shane’s parents are coming for a visit tomorrow and staying for a week. Hopefully they won’t be bored out of their mind!

My biggest concern about moving here was the climate…and yes it has been a shock! The first day here it was ND’s hottest day (upper 90’s) of the summer which was perfect for us; but it went downhill from there. We are now in the 70’s in durning the day and lower at night. I have already turned on the heat and don’t plan to turn it off any time soon. I have collected basic items such as candles, flashlights, batteries, etc. in case of a power outage this winter. We still need to stock up on can goods and extra water though.

If you missed my posts about our moving journey before arriving to ND check out the following: “You Are God Alone”The Countdown BeginsThe Countdown Continues.

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The Anger Series will continue soon (now that we have internet in our home and are starting to get into a normal routine). If you have not already; be sure to catch up with the previous posts in the series which are all listed here.

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I look forward to getting back into the blogging routine! I’ve missed being at my computer!

She’s Gonna Blow: Warning Signs (Ch. 3)

In chapter 3, Warning Signs, Julie Ann Barnhill discusses “How to Know When You’re Gonna Blow.”

“There are warning signs and signals for just about everything that can be potentially dangerous. Train whistles and crossing lights caution motorists to slow down and be observant. Tornado sirens drone loudly… However, unless you’re trained to recognize these warning signs, they are ineffective in helping you remain safe and protected. You have to know the warning signs that spell imminent danger–especially when you’re the one in danger of exploding in anger.”

Warning Sign #1: Swarms of Smaller Earthquakes

The author talks about everyday things and chores which may not cause an explosion themselves but together they build up until the explosion finally happens. She says that “…hours before Mount Saint Helens erupted on May 18, 1980, hundreds of small earthquakes were recorded in the state of Washington…”

Laundry Room Rumbles: Piles of laundry all needing to be washed, dried, folded, and put away.

Kitchen Quakes: Crusty dishes, crumbs on counter, spills on the floor, etc.

Technology Tremors: Loosing reports before they were saved on the computer, messing with vacuums or other appliances that won’t work, etc.

Workplace Woes: Dealing with supervisors, stressors, and pressures at work before going home.

These are some but definately not all of the possible “earthquakes” that could be present any given day. Barnhill suggests finding a way to put visual stressors (such as the piles of laundry) “out of sight until you can do something about them.” She also suggests reflecting on Jonah and his complaining when he should have been thanking God. “Instead of fretting over the problem, try thanking God for the gift of the computer or the washing machine, which has saved you so much trouble in the past. A little perspective and a little gratitude can really help you keep your cool!”

My main “earthquakes” include:

~ When my girls are getting into or doing something that they know they are not supposed to do (as in they have been told repeatedly and disciplined for it in the past)

~When my girls argue, fight, hurt each other, don’t share, etc

~When things do not go as planned

~Lack of sleep

Warning Sign #2: Sulfur Dioxide Emissions

“As a volcano nears eruption it will release toxic gases that can endanger human life and health.” Here she discusses body language and speech such as: angry retorts, sarcasm, and little barbs. She recognized the toxicity of her speech when her son started to repeat her facial expressions and speech.

I would like to add swearing to the list. I find it absolutely insulting and rude when I hear others swear around me or at me. Yet, it is a habit that in today’s culture is generally socially acceptable. Although there was a time where I would never swear; over the years certain words became habits. Not in everyday language but when I am angry or I hurt myself it is easy for me to say them. This is one habit that I definitely do not want my girls to pick up.

Warning Sign #3: Physical Swelling of the Slope

“As a volcano nears eruption, its sides will start puffing out from the pressure inside… It simply doesn’t look right–and experts know that funny appearance spells trouble.” The author goes on to describe a story where her anger became visibly apparent to everyone around. Her husband saw the warning sign and did what he could to calm the situation.

When I am starting to get angry; I feel like I am boiling inside. I am pretty sure that my face gets red and my eyes show intense fury. My mom has always said that my face generally says it all before I speak. You know the saying, “If looks could kill…” I generally feel like I have been attacked in some way (Shane says or does the wrong thing, Kendal refuses to obey, Audrey is screaming because she doesn’t want a nap, etc.).

One thing that I have been doing (mainly within the past month) to keep me from exploding is listening to praise music. For some reason the calm worship music helps to keep me more relaxed and peaceful. I can’t say that it 100% has stopped me from exploding but I can say that the explosions are few when I have the music playing in the background. This may work for me because I sing along with the music which keeps me in a worship mindset. I am relaxed so it takes longer to get me to the point of blown out anger.

At the end of this chapter, Barnhill suggests that after an explosion happens to stop and write down what happened right before the explosion. This may help you recognize triggers to your anger so that you can avoid those triggers in the future. I have slowly started to do this but it has not become a habit for me yet so I often forget.

What are your personal warning signs and what things have you learned to do to help diffuse your explosions before they happen?

(P.S. this question is NOT rhetorical! I really would love to hear what others do so that maybe I can learn some more tips to incorporate into my life.)

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She’s Gonna Blow: Real Help for Moms Dealing with Anger

By Julie Ann Barnhill / Harvest House Publishers

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I would love to hear your thoughts and stories if you have ever dealt with anger in your life!

Please feel free to comment on my posts and/or e-mail me at:  hearttreasurescontact@yahoo.com

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You can find links to all posts in this series on the Anger Series Index page.

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A Woman’s Answer To Anger: Starting Down The Road From Rage (Ch. 1)

Earlier this year, I facilitated a Bible Study for women dealing with anger. We read A Woman’s Answer To Anger by: Annie Chapman and watched several sermons by: Dr. S. M. Davis over the course of the study. Chapman shares personal stories and incorporates scripture throughout her message of how to let go of anger. The study questions were really helpful for our group discussions.

In the introduction The Answer To Anger, the author shares Proverbs 10:7 “The memory of the righteous will be a blessing, but the name of the wicked will rot.” Referring to after she has passed away she asks the questions, “What will my family remember about me? What are the words they will use to describe me?” She points out that “anger can be a vicious destroyer of one’s good memory in the minds of others.” I want my children and others to remember me as someone who lived her life for Christ and strived to be a Proverbs 31 woman. A year and a half ago, they would probably have said that I am controlling, angry, and bitter. Chapman suggests that “sometimes we choose anger as an alternative to other emotions. Anger can feel more manageable than grief or sadness.” This is true for me. When I am angry I don’t feel as hurt by the person who wronged me. Instead, I can hurt them with my anger. When I cry, I feel hurt, broken, and weak. I would rather feel in control with my anger. I almost always default to anger. It isn’t until I have nothing left that I actually break down and cry it out. Although those previously mentioned adjectives could be used to describe me today; I am now actively working on my struggle with anger. I pray that in the near future those adjectives will completely be removed from my character description.

In the first chapter of the book Starting Down The Road From Rage, Chapman gives her testimony of how she came to know Christ and a little bit about her journey from anger. Then she says,

“For some of us, the road from rage may be a simple procedure, like the extraction of a tooth. The pain is real, but comparatively minimal and quickly resolved. However, for others, the healing requires much more work form hands of “The Great Physician.” And, it requires a great deal more from the patient. Seeking God to discover where the rage started, identifying the offending people who must be forgiven (or asked for forgiveness), confessing the sin to God, forsaking it, and going about the hard work of reprogramming the thought processes are all part of the procedure… But, is it easy? Absolutely not! Battling thought patterns, humbling ourselves and dying to the human pride that got us to the point of trying to live independently from God, and receiving His grace to deal with the predicament are never easy.”

I cannot remember a specific major event which started me on the anger cycle of my life. But, I can think of several things that have happened to me that caused me to respond in anger over the years. In this chapter, Chapman refers to Romans 8:28 “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” This is a wonderful reminder for me. Anything bad in my life caused by others or that I caused because of my anger; God can work together for good. He can use those things to bring glory to himself. Each of those things are just a small piece of the much bigger picture! When we recognize that important truth; then we can start to move along the path of healing.

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A Woman’s Answer To Anger has been retitled.  It is now called:

Letting Go of Anger: How to Get Your Emotions Under Control

By Annie Chapman / Harvest House Publishers

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I would love to hear your thoughts and stories if you have ever dealt with anger in your life!

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You can find links to all posts in this series on the Anger Series Index page.

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She’s Gonna Blow: Volcanos 101 (Ch.2)

In the second chapter Volcano 101, Barnhill describes several types of natural volcanic eruptions and relates them to anger.

  1. The Strombolian: “It spits out volcanic materials such as cinders and thick, pasty lava bombs… Eruptions are relatively short and happen at predictable intervals”
    • “Verbal cinders of sarcasm… and cinders of regret… Repeated small eruptions and cinder showers can eventually bring about as much damage as any other kind of eruption.”
  2. The Hawaiian: “Characterized by lakes and rivers of constantly boiling lava… doing little damage… But sooner or later the fiery lava will… overflow the sides… From a distance, the slow-moving streams of lava don’t look that dangerous… [But when they] leave behind acres of desolate black rock in place of green country side–then their destructive nature becomes clear.”
    • “If you simmer and seethe long enough… sooner or later the anger and negativity inside you is going to break out… Caustic criticism, negative assessments, unfavorable comparisons, sarcastic barbs, teasing that carries and edge, or just pessimistic pronouncements about life in general… This kind of mom doesn’t just blow and get it over with; she just keeps picking and harping.”
  3. The Vulcanian: “Loud, scary, and dangerous!… The solid fragments violently ejected from the mountain are hot and deadly and will annihilate anything or anyone they come in contact with. The gases are usually poisonous.”
    • “Verbal, physical, emotional… She lets loose with poisonous words and actions… Her wrath is unpredictable, and she doesn’t get over it quickly.”
  4. The Pliaian: “The most violent of volcanic eruptions. Everything about such an explosion is big and bad… [Characterized by] the sheer volume of material ejected… and the sheer power of the explosion that throws it out.” (Mount SaintHelens on May 18, 1980).
    • “We’re talking about really loosing it–screaming until you’re hoarse, rampaging through the house, perhaps even beating a child or saying the kinds of things that wither your heart when you think about them later… Angry explosions that cause your children to hide from you or leave the house (physically and emotionally)–explosions that leave you wondering what kind of monster you’ve become.”

Most consistently I am a combination of The Hawaiian & The Vulcanian with my girls and Shane. I tend to keep record of everything and live in a boiling state and eventually I explode. In public I can generally control my temper even though I am boiling inside. You would probably be able to see my frustration and irritation on my face. In private it is easier for me to let loose and yell my demands. There are times when I have gotten so angry with Shane that I couldn’t stop screaming and yelling until I completely lost all emotional control. That scenario usually ends with me crying and going in to a depression state.

My greatest fear is that my girls will become like me. I do what I saw my mom and dad do my whole childhood. And from what I understand there are people from several generations above  me who have had anger problems too. I know that my relationship with my mom was broken because of her and my anger problems (we have repaired a lot of our relationship over the past several years). I desperately want to have a good relationship with my girls–now and when they are older. And I want to break the anger cycle so that they (and their children) don’t have anger problems in the future.

Barnhill points out that volcanic eruptions are dangerous and can damage “your children’s sense of security, your spouse’s trust, and your relationship with God.” She also pleas with moms to start understanding their type of anger and learn what their triggers are.

The good news for those of us who have blown our tops (no matter what the type) is that God is a forgiving father who is able to help us change. I sing the following Keith Green song as a prayer, which remembers the words of David, almost daily:

Create in me a clean heart oh God; and renew a right spirit within me.

Create in me a clean heart oh God; and renew a right spirit within me.

Cast me not away from thy presence oh, Lord. Take not thy Holy Spirit from me.

Restore unto me, the joy of thy salvation; and renew a right spirit within me.

Psalm 51:10-12 (KJV)

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She’s Gonna Blow: Real Help for Moms Dealing with Anger

By Julie Ann Barnhill / Harvest House Publishers

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I would love to hear your thoughts and stories if you have ever dealt with anger in your life!

Please feel free to comment on my posts and/or e-mail me at:  hearttreasurescontact@yahoo.com

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You can find links to all posts in this series on the Anger Series Index page.

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