Why I Do Not Read Erotic Fiction

I tend to read secular books that are controversial so that I can be prepared when I get into a discussion about them. I try not to completely judge a book based on what people say because a lot of people refuse to read (or insist on reading) a book… just because of the hype. Even Christian books throughout the ages have been judged poorly when they first were written (C.S. Lewis fiction, The Chronicles of Narnia, for example). I’ve read The Davinci Code, the Harry Potter series, Twilight saga, The Hunger Games trilogy, and several other controversial books. I don’t care for some of them and others I have no problem with. No matter what my view is on these books, I can have a knowledgeable discussion about each of them should they come up in conversation. The same goes with movies. I will often watch a movie just because it is controversial so that if someone asks I can give my honest opinion. And just to be fair, I have also read “Christian” books that many Christians love which I personally feel should never have had a Christian label due to bad theology (for example The Shack-see my review here).
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When it comes to the above mentioned books, I find that people question whether or not I should have read them. Yet, often they still come to me to get my opinion about books or movies on their radar. Generally, instead of saying “yes or no” about whether they should read or watch something, I will just tell them what the book or movie is about and let them make their own decision based on their convictions. If they ask questions like, “Isn’t there a lot of witchcraft in that book?” or “Do you think the book could lead someone astray?” I will answer truthfully.
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All that being said, there are some types of books and movies that I will not read or watch.
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One type being horror, where the sole purpose of the book or movie is to instill extreme fear. I don’t mind most thrillers like murder mysteries, crime drama, or suspense (like Frank Peretti books or Morgan Freeman movies). I just don’t like to fill my mind with books or movies that have no other purpose than to cause extreme fear.
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Another type being erotic, where the sole purpose of the book or movie is to arouse a person sexually. Which brings me to the purpose of this blog post… A facebook page that I follow posted the following article I’m Not Reading Fifty Shades of Grey. The author lists four reasons why she is not going to read the book Fifty Shades of Grey both from a personal and biblical perspective (I highly recommend that you read this article because she discusses more reasons than I plan to list here). On the facebook post, both sides were discussing if the book was appropriate to read using the same arguments that people use for other controversial books/movies (“it is not biblical” or “it is just a fiction story”). I have not read this book but I gave my opinion. Someone who has read the book accused people of being judgemental. Personally, from reading the posts, I did not feel that anyone was being judgemental but were just stating their opinions based on what they believe to be true according to the Bible. I believe that it is okay to discern whether or not you should read or watch certain media. It is also okay to state your opinion and/or debate as long as you do it humbly. I do not know if the accusation was aimed at me or someone else but it prompted me to want to elaborate on what I was saying in the discussion. So here is my opinion…
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Unfortunately, even in the Christian community, there is a problem with pornography addictions. Marriages have hit rock bottom or have even lead to divorce because of this problem.  Most people associate pornography addictions with men but women can be addicted to porn as well. Many people also associate pornography with magazines or movies but I believe that erotic romances should be added to that list.
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One online dictionary defines pornography as the following:
1. the depiction of erotic behavior (as in pictures or writing) intended to cause sexual excitement
2. material (as books or a photograph) that depicts erotic behavior and is intended to cause sexual excitement
3. the depiction of acts in a sensational manner so as to arouse a quick intense emotional reaction
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Most women are not stimulated by photos in the same way that men are BUT we are stimulated by words and attention. This is one reason why women are more prone to having an emotional affair with a man who gives her attention and says all of the right things. When it comes to books, most avid readers would admit that they get caught up in the story as if they are apart of it. Readers can imagine the scenes, conversation, and actions as they are reading (even if they have never seen the movie that was made for that particular book). Most readers agree that books are generally better than movies because of the amount of detail given in a book that would be impossible to show on-screen. My husband (who is not a reader) thinks it is hilarious when I am reading a book and have tears flowing down my face. He also thinks I’m crazy if I am reading a book and bust out laughing. My point is, a book can bring out just as many emotions as a movie can: joy, sadness, anger, fear, love, lust, etc.
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Most Christians would agree that adultery is a sin. The Bible takes it one step further and says that lust is also a sin:
“You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:28)
“For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not of the Father but is of the world.” (1 John 2:16 KJV)
So, using the above scripture as guidelines, read the following Amazon description of the book Fifty Shades of Grey. Then, make an informed decision on whether or not you should read it.

“When literature student Anastasia Steele goes to interview young entrepreneur Christian Grey, she encounters a man who is beautiful, brilliant, and intimidating. The unworldly, innocent Ana is startled to realize she wants this man and, despite his enigmatic reserve, finds she is desperate to get close to him. Unable to resist Ana’s quiet beauty, wit, and independent spirit, Grey admits he wants her, too—but on his own terms.

Shocked yet thrilled by Grey’s singular erotic tastes, Ana hesitates. For all the trappings of success—his multinational businesses, his vast wealth, his loving family—Grey is a man tormented by demons and consumed by the need to control. When the couple embarks on a daring, passionately physical affair, Ana discovers Christian Grey’s secrets and explores her own dark desires.

Erotic, amusing, and deeply moving, the Fifty Shades Trilogy is a tale that will obsess you, possess you, and stay with you forever.”

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Bottom line is, I have not read this book and I don’t plan to because of the erotic label. I have read books and have watched movies in the past that I never should have read or watched. I have learned from my mistakes and I don’t want or need to fill my mind with images and emotions that are not pleasing to God or my husband.
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Here are two great resources for dealing with sexual temptation and sin:
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457981: Every Woman"s Battle with Workbook: Discovering God"s Plan for Sexual and Emotional Fulfillment Every Woman’s Battle with Workbook: Discovering God’s Plan for Sexual and Emotional Fulfillment

By Shannon Ethridge / Random House

457974: Every Man"s Battle with Workbook: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time Every Man’s Battle with Workbook: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time

By Stephen Arterburn & Fred Stoeker / Random House

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Eat Your Peas Daughter

Eat Your Peas Daugher by Cheryl Karpen (and her mom) is a very short and very cute book of thoughts, quotes, & scripture that a mom might think or say to her daughter. It is very simply but elegantly illustrated in pastel colors of pink, blue, & green. There is a lot of open space that would be perfect for a mother to write her own thoughts or place photos. I think it would make the perfect gift from mom to daughter around the pre-teen years.

My favorite page of the book quotes Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Then the author writes, “Sometimes life doesn’t go as planned and not getting what we want becomes a blessing in disguise. There is a plan for you. Have faith. Be patient, and most of all… believe.”

I think this book is great for the sentimental mom who wants to share with her daughter what is on her heart in a unique way.

In accordance with the Federal Trade Commission I am required to disclose that Thomas Nelson provided this book for free in exchange for my review. I was not required to write a positive review and the opinions I have expressed are my own.

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Eat Your Peas, Daughter: A Little Wisdom and a Lasting Promise – eBook

By Cheryl Karpen / Thomas Nelson

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A Billion Reasons Why

This book by: Kristin Billerbeck is about a young woman named Katie McKenna who lives in California, works as a school teacher, and is almost engaged to be married to a predictable guy named Dexter. Her ex boyfriend, who also happens to be multimillionaire Luc DeForges, shows up and requests that she return home to New Orleans to sing and dance at his brother’s wedding. She makes a business arrangement with him for the sole purpose of going home to get her grandmother’s wedding ring so that Dexter can use it when he proposes. Katie quickly realizes that she has to face her past: her mother, her grief over her father’s death, her passion for singing and dancing, and most importantly her feelings for Luc.

Until now, I have never read any books by this author. After reading this book, I would like to pick up some of her other titles! I thought that this book was an easy read,  and it felt like I was watching a good chic flick romance movie. I could easily picture the characters as they interacted through the pages. I did feel that a lot of the book was predictable but not in a bad way. Some plots in the book were not predictable which made it interesting. I like how Billerbeck used Katie’s struggle to understand her emotions and tied it into her relationship with God. Overall, this is a great story that I would recommend to anyone who likes Christian romance novels. This is a great addition to my personal library!

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A Billion Reasons Why

By Kristin Billerbeck / Thomas Nelson

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2010 In Review

Thank you to everyone who has read & followed my blog in 2010!

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The stats helper monkeys at WordPress.com mulled over how this blog did in 2010, and here’s a high level summary of its overall blog health:

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A Boeing 747-400 passenger jet can hold 416 passengers. This blog was viewed about 6,700 times in 2010. That’s about 16 full 747s.

 

In 2010, there were 148 new posts, not bad for the first year! There were 230 pictures uploaded, taking up a total of 359mb. That’s about 4 pictures per week.

The busiest day of the year was July 29th with 101 views. The most popular post that day was She’s Gonna Blow: Volcanos 101 (Ch.2).

Where did they come from?

The top referring sites in 2010 were facebook.com, en.wordpress.com, woolerywanderings.blogspot.com, mail.live.com, and mail.yahoo.com.

Some visitors came searching, mostly for birthday blessings, abc memory verses, she’s gonna blow 2, she’s gonna blow, and heart treasures wordpress.

Attractions in 2010

These are the posts and pages that got the most views in 2010.

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She’s Gonna Blow: Volcanos 101 (Ch.2) July 2010
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Why Don’t Friend’s With Kids Have Time? July 2010
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The Pretty Princess Phenomenon August 2010
11 comments and 2 Likes on WordPress.com

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ABC Memory Verses May 2010
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Praying Scripture: Philippians (Ch. 4) April 2010

Sir Rowan And The Camerian Conquest

This book by Chuck Black is about a champion swordsman who worked his way to wealth and fame through winning tournaments. Sir Rowan’s pride and arrogance was his downfall. When he lost everything, he found his true calling as a Knight of the Prince. Risking his life, he and his brother Lijah, proclaim the truth to anyone who will listen. There are several battles between good and evil and a unique story line which would engage anyone who reads it. Black uses allegory to incorporate Biblical truths and the Gospel. The Prince represents Jesus, the Knights of the Prince represent Christians, the Dark Knight (Lucius) represents Satan, the Silent Warriors represent angels, the Shadow Warriors represent demons, and the list goes on.

This is the second book that I have read by Black and I loved it! This is book 6 in the Knights of Arrethtrae series. He also has another series called the Kingdom Series. I am look forward to reading all of them! Other reviews compare Black’s books to Pilgrims Progress. I would also compare them to the Chronicles of Narnia and Frank Peretti’s books. These books could be Christian replacements for families who prefer not to read popular secular series such as Harry Potter. These are categorized as Youth/Teen Fiction but I think adults would like them too. I highly recommend this book!

In accordance with the Federal Trade Commission I am required to disclose that Waterbrook Multnomah Publishers provided this book for free in exchange for my review. I was not required to write a positive review and the opinions I have expressed are my own.

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#6: Sir Rowan and the Camerian Conquest

By Chuck Black / Multnomah Books

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Voices Of The Faithful–Free Book Giveaway!

CONGRATULATIONS HEATHER!!!

Since you are the only one who entered the giveaway you are now the winner!!! I will get the book in the mail this week!

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This devotional book is written by Beth Moore and almost 300 missionaries serving around the world. Each page is a daily devotional which includes a scripture verse, inspirational story, and prayer. Each page is dated by month and day so it can be used like a perpetual calendar of devotions. The index includes all of the devotional titles by month. The themes for each month are the following: January–God’s Character, February–God’s Word, March–Prayer, April–God’s Grace, May–Witnessing, June–Persecution, July–God Working, August–Contentment, September–God Before Me, October–Spiritual Warfare, November–Compassion, and December–Christmas Around the World.

This book is an easy read especially if you use it as a daily devotional. The stories are written by real people facing real challenges in real places. I believe that this book will give Christians a better understanding of what serving overseas is like as well as providing encouragement in the Christian faith. I would recommend this book to anyone looking for a good daily devotional and/or to people who have a heart for missions.

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Voices of the Faithful: Inspiring Stories of Courage from Christians Serving Around the World

By Beth Moore / Thomas Nelson

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FREE BOOK GIVEAWAY

To be entered in the giveaway:

1. Post a link to THIS blog post to your blog, facebook, etc.

2. Comment on this blog post to let me know 1. how long you have followed my blog, and 2. where you posted my blog link! (If possible include a link to where you posted. Only one comment per person please.)

3. Entries will be accepted until midnight Saturday, December 18, 2010. I will insert all entries into http://www.random.org and whoever randomly gets the #1 spot will win the book!

4. On Sunday, December 19, 2010 the top of this post will be updated with the announcement of the winner.

5. Winner must e-mail me with mailing address within 5 days of announcement otherwise the book will be sent to a new winner. hearttreasurescontact@yahoo.com

6. If all goes well… the winner should receive the book in time to start the devotional with the new year! Or at least with only a few days to catch up on 🙂

Disclaimer: Remember this is a free giveaway at my expense, therefore, Heart Treasures Blog is not responsible for loss or damage of the giveaway item(s). Giveaway open only to residents of the United States (unless you have a US Military address such as APO, FPO, etc. -OR- I know you personally.)

Also, the publishers provided me with a paperback book but someone recently gave me a hardback copy of this book. Since I prefer paperback, I will be sending the hardback to the winner. I only mention this because the dust jacket is slightly worn around the edges.

First Things First

This book is written by Kurt & Brenda Warner. Kurt is a well known football player that lead the Rams to a Super Bowl victory. Most recently he took the Cardinals to the Super Bowl against the Steelers (anyone playing against the Steelers has my vote!). Although I have had a favorite football team since childhood (Dallas Cowboys) I do not watch football regularly. Unless it is a Dallas game, I really don’t care about football at all. What attracted me to this book was the picture of Kurt, Brenda, & seven kids on the front cover. I was immediately interested in how a celebrity family raises that many kids. When I read that they were Christians I was even more interested!

Kurt & Brenda openly share their stories of before and after they got married and his career took off. They share of hardships and blessings they encountered relating to having a special needs child, money, the pressures of a public life, etc. They share their family rules throughout the book. They share about their charities and ministries. They share how each of their children uniquely fit into the family dynamics.

I was surprised about how easy it was to read this book. I felt like I was in the middle of a conversation during the whole book. I could feel the Warner’s emotions as they talked about their frustrations, hurts, victories, and love. They are transparent and honest when they talk about their feelings for each other, their children, and the people they help with their ministries. I love how they try to instill a servant’s heart in each of their children. Since both of them know what it is like to not have any money, they are careful to give God the glory for their current financial blessings by tithing (even multi million checks) and funding charities and ministries for communities and those less fortunate. They seem to really work together as a team in their marriage and with parenting. Overall, I think that this is an excellent book and would recommend it to anyone wanting to know more about the Warner family. More importantly, I would recommend it to anyone trying to raise multiple children. The Warner “rules” for marriage and parenting are practical and would be easy to adapt to any family of any size. I look forward to sharing some of them with my husband (since he probably won’t read the book) to see if we can incorporate them into our family.

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First Things First: The Rules of Being a Warner

By Brenda & Kurt Warner with Jennifer Schuchmann / Tyndale House

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Sir Quinlan And The Swords Of Valor

This book by Chuck Black is about two Knights of the Prince who choose opposite destinies. One chooses the comfortable life and the other chooses the life of actively fighting evil and spreading the good news. Sir Quinlan learns many valuable lessons and truths as he trains to be a knight in the unit called the Swords of Valor. There are several battles between good and evil and a unique story line which would engage anyone who reads it. Black uses allegory to incorporate Biblical truths and the Gospel. The Prince represents Jesus, the Knights of the Prince represent Christians, the Dark Knight (Lucius) represents Satan, the Silent Warriors represent angels, the Shadow Warriors represent demons, and the list goes on.

This is the first book that I have read by Black and I loved it! This is book 5 in the Knights of Arrethtrae series. He also has another series called the Kingdom Series. I am look forward to reading all of them! Other reviews compare Black’s books to Pilgrims Progress. I would also compare them to the Chronicles of Narnia and Frank Peretti’s books. These books could be Christian replacements for families who prefer not to read popular secular series such as Harry Potter. These are categorized as Youth/Teen Fiction but I think adults would like them too. I highly recommend this book!

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#5: Sir Quinlan and the Swords of Valor

By Chuck Black / Multnomah Books

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